Building Hedges to Protect Your Marriage

Please bear with me if I digress from the topic of writing hubs though I will get back to that later.  Recently, I found out that a family member and a close friend are both in the throes of divorce due to an unfaithful spouse.  Sometimes I don't think that people think about the pain and damage that infidelity can and will cause their marriage and their families.

And I don't just mean their immediate family but the extended family as well.  My wife has been deeply affected by her sister's pending divorce.  The other siblings and their mother are also devastated.  It seems today that what is important is self and that no price is too high to make sure that self is happy.  Marriage and family have become secondary to keeping oneself happy.  The notions of commitment and self-sacrifice are passe in today's hedonistic culture.

Marriages today are viewed as conveniences.  When they become inconvenient, then it is time to end it.  Who cares about the costs?  After all, what is most important is that I am happy, right?  But as I see marriages of friends and family fall apart around me, I keep seeing the same behaviors lead to divorce time and time again.

When I said "I do" to my wife, I was making a vow before God and man that I would put her and our marriage above everything else in importance.  Above my career, above my friendships, above my family, above my passions.  It takes commitment and hard work.  It doesn't happen by accident but by design.  If  marriage is important, then proactive steps must be taken to protect it.  No one is above temptation and selfishness.  The prudent will build hedges around their marriage to protect it.  Not to do so in today's world is like allowing the fox into the hen house.  The results will be obvious and inevitable.

So, I did write a hub about building hedges to protect your marriage.  It details a number of proactive steps that couples can make to protect their marriages.  Some  steps will be easy while some will be difficult.  Some may be even be a bit embarassing in today's culture, but who care.  You're not trying to impress the world but build a healthy, strong marriage.